Showing posts with label help. Show all posts
Showing posts with label help. Show all posts

March 22, 2012

1 year of hope


This past Tuesday, on the 20th, was my one year anniversary of the last time I cut myself. I'm proud to say that I've been free of self-injury for one year and my heart has been healing quite wonderfully. I'm so happy to have made it this far.

If this is something you're struggling with, and you're looking for a way out, I want you to know that it's possible. All things are possible. You're going to make it. I believe in you and I believe in me and we're going to climb mountains together. I'll help you through your struggles. I'm always here with a listening ear.

You have the power to make it through this. It might not be all better today but it's okay if things take time.

This past year, I've learned to see the incredible strength that's inside of me. I've learned that inspiration is everywhere. There isn't a place that I venture into that I don't find some source of inspiration. I loved myself before I stopped for good and I love myself even more now. I'm incredibly proud of myself. I've never felt so wonderful before.

I shared my day with friends that I love and I had blast! It was excellent! Thank you for listening to my story. Remember to try to be happy. You are beautiful and you are loved!

Listening ear:
twitter.com/kiyannashanay
kiyannaloves@yahoo.com
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facebook.com/kiyannashanay

December 25, 2011

Holiday Help

Help for the holidays:
  • Don't listen to those family members who only go on about how you've "let yourself go" or tell you "how big you are now" or that "you need to eat because you're too thin" etc. It's your body and it's none of their business. All sizes are beautiful and fat is not an insult anyway. Remember that you're beautiful, always. Some people are beautiful and fat. Some people are beautiful and skinny. No big deal. The holidays are no place for body policing.
  • Ignore the implications that your career choice/college major is not going to help you in the future. It's your life and because it's your life, it's wonderful. Unless they can see into the future, it's a moo point.
  • When people bug you about settling down and dating, remember they have no business in your love life.
  • Enjoy all the food you want to enjoy
  • Be thankful
  • Smile
  • Hug
  • Fill conversations with love and good things. There is no need for hate during the holidays
  • Remember that you are strong and you are special. Don't let hurtful words get you down. You're important. You are enough
  • Stay strong
  • Stay beautiful
  • Know that there are places to vent.
got any more tips? I would love to hear them.


March 5, 2010

I'm here. *hug*

It really breaks my heart when I see people out there that are hurting but have no one to talk to. I'm on a mission to help make sad hearts happy. If your heart is sad and need an extra person to talk to, I want to let you know that where ever you are in the world, I'm here for you. I want you to know that you can trust me. If you ever need to talk, you can talk to me, just pick a way: kiyannaloves@yahoo.com, http://facebook.com/kiyannashanay, http://formspring.me/kiyannashanay, http://twitter.com/kiyannashanay, I am more than willing to help in any way. You can vent, you can write till your hands fall off, just get it all out. That's the first step to a happy heart, and it's an amazing step. It feels so great to let it all out. I encourage you to try it. =] ♥

December 10, 2009

this is good

Every day,
I learn to love myself more and more.
I learn to treat myself better each and every
day.

This is good.
I smile more, because I have a reason to, not just
because I can.

I'm happy.
This is good.
My heart is slowly healing and it's good.

All broken hearts need to be healed.
If you're currently suffering from a broken heart, I hope it heals. I hope you find the love that can repair your broken heart. It may be a hard journey but it will be a beautiful one. I'd like to start by saying that I love you.
I love you because I believe in you and I know that you're special and I want the very best for you.

I want to see your heart healed. Let the love heal your heart.

April 23, 2009

failed affairs and harsh actions

Domestic Violence...
  • Domestic violence is the control of one partner by another in a marital, dating, or live-in relationship. It includes physical, mental, and economic abuse, threats and isolation. It is a major problem in the United States, affecting over 30 million Americans.

Domestic violence is one of my most major causes. I had to do a research paper on this topic in English a while back and through my research, I've discovered that Domestic Violence is a horrible problem that needs to be brought to attention to people everywhere. It's worse then most people realize. I think we should pay more attention to this topic, not just because it was hot in the media, but because it affects an estimated 30 million Americans and one of them could be you or someone close to you.

How can this probelm be solved?

Here are some of my thoughts on possible solutions to bring the number of domestic violence victims down to a much lower number:

I think that the problem can be solved but the solution has to begin with educators, victims, and potential victims. Domestic violence can be reduced if victims, educators and survivors taught people about the cycle of abuse and the characteristics of an abusive person or partner. It would also help if counseling and therapy was available for individuals who have been marked as potentially abusive according to the known characteristics of an abusive partner.


The cycle of abuse is like an un-merry-go-round. It starts off with an unbelievable, special romance. Then, out of nowhere, one partner, the abusive partner, begins to get moody while the other partner tries to console them. The abusive partner will then go off, harming the other verbally or physically. The abusive partner promises that it will never happen again but the cycle repeats itself. Hopefully, if more people begin relationships knowing the cycle, they will be able to identify the parts of the cycle and get out of the relationship before the cycle can reach its worst part or even repeat itself.

Aside from the cycle of abuse, people should also be very familiar with the characteristics of abusive partners so that they can identify an abusive partner before they have the chance to be abused. If abusive partners can be identified before they actually harm someone, they get therapy to prevent it from ever happening. That would decrease the number of domestic violence cases and the number of victims.

I think that for a problem, there is a solution and this problem will be solved. Together we can stomp out domestic violence by raising awareness. visit http://dosomething.org/ for more info and other ways you can help raise awareness. Awareness leads to action so anything you can do will always help! :)

Here are some views on domestic violence from some awesome people (feel free to add yours):

  • C.R. female, 17: Domestic Violence is a harsh reality that is ignored. The people that have the power to change the situation often don't because of numerous, crazy reasons, like denial or "love." Domestic violence affects everyone, especially children who have to watch their parents be be abused or be involved in the abuse themselves. Those situations emotionally scar many and cause problems that may not show until later, such as attachment issues and trust issues. No matter what, if not stopped, horrible effects will be caused which will follow someone affected by the abuse for a short period of time, or worse, a lifetime.
  • G.B. female, 16: My view on domestic violence is that there is absolutely no need for an individual to withstand any abuse from another individual . It should be severely punished by law and not easily pardoned. Domestic violence should be brought to awareness!
  • K.A. male, 16: Well I would never hit my girl or abuse her in anyway that she's not comfortable with and I don't think that it is right for anyone to do it whether it be man or woman.

what do you think?

visit http://www.ndvh.org/ and join the million voices campaign

:)